Tuesday, April 26, 2016

No Present Without a Past

Greetings Pups,

I've noticed lately how people can use a person's past to try and attack them. Call me insane, but I find few things more refreshing than someone who does not try to put forth a facade by hiding who or what they used to be. I understand that by doing this they remove the public's thrill of exposing them or watching them fall, but that's just tough. Not everyone chooses to hide behind a mask.

Anyone with a brain knows that, if you've lived in this world at all, you are officially the proud (maybe) owner of a past, and you need have one so you can trade it in to get a present, and eventually a future. Our past is made up of stepping stones that get us to where we are now and where we will be. Are all of those stones in perfect shape? Probably not, but they get the job done.

And yet, for some reason, there are people who seem to believe that if someone does not appear today as they did years ago, then they are being dishonest or fake. Unless...Good Heavens! Do you think it's possible that over time a person can - Dun, Dun, DUUUUNNN! - change?! Yeah, what a shocker. Seriously, when did certain people get the idea that, because they choose to never evolve, everyone wants to live like that? When did someone saying, "Hey, I made some bad choices, but I've moved on from them, and now I'm a better person" translate to FAKE? Well, it doesn't.

We have all screwed up sometimes. We all fall. But it's those who choose to stay on the ground that are in trouble. The ones who fall, stand up and remember the bruises so they don't get them again, those are the ones who will move forward. If we forget our mistakes or try to hide them, we might make them again and have to start all over. Perhaps, worse off than we were before. Better to show every wrong turn on the map, so we, and everyone who looks at us, can learn from that past and live a more shining present.

Love and full moons,
Becky the Writer

Tuesday, April 19, 2016

Paying Blessings Forward

Greetings Pups,

It's funny how you hear phrases or cliches all the time and you never think of how they actually happen in real life. But, every so often, you are reminded of just that. I had one of those experiences the other day, and the saying "Pay It Forward" was ringing in my head quite loudly.

Let's begin at the beginning. I went to my local library in the morning to get some work done. After a few hours, I headed out, but was stopped in my tracks by the display they had set up for National Poetry Month. Of course, I had to check it out, and I found a nice surprise. They had decided to put my books on display. Right there in the front and everything! So, I thanked the ladies behind the desk, and a few minutes later I was able to do something nice for someone else. I pulled into the drive thru at an undisclosed location, and I let someone who was coming from the other direction go ahead of me, even though they were in a van and could have had a very big order, thus holding me up. But why not? I like doing a kind deed, and I really expected nothing in return. But when I pulled up to pay I found out that the lady in front of me had given the cashier money to pay for my order. And oh, why didn't I order more stuff?! Just kidding. I was quite surprised and kind of humbled. As it turned out, the guy taking the money might have been the friendliest drive thru window worker I had ever come across in my life. So, when I got home, I called the manager of the establishment and said what a delight this young man was. I know most people call to complain, but it was wonderful to be able to take it in a different direction. And finally, I pulled the little tab on one of my items and - Boom!- free smoothie. And now you probably know which food place I went to. Anyway, good times and good day, all around, but the best part was the lesson I was reminded of.

Again, I know it has been reduced to a cliche as well, but doing kind things really is a reward in and of itself. I actually like how I feel when I'm nice to people, especially strangers, because you never know what kind of day they might be having and maybe you helped. And you also never know what kind of blessings you might get back or what kind of blessings they may pass on to someone else.

Look, I'm all for being tough and whatnot, but friendliness isn't so bad either. All of us have been blessed in one way or another, so what better to do than spread the love around to people who might need it.

Love and full moons,
Becky the Writer